Fresh air, some sunshine, a little warmth and breastfeeding at the park in front of strangers… Well, the first parts are fun. Clothes with easy access for nursing moms can be hard to come by. But fear not, you don’t have to turn in your style card when you have a new baby. Here’s a few spring styles available at Hip to be Round for spring 2015 that we can’t wait to get our hands on.
Basket Weave Nursing Maxi
Believe it or not this nursing/maternity maxi dress has a hidden nursing panel right behind the top basket weave. Works great for maternity and falls completely flat for a no-way-that’s-maternity look postpartum.
Zahra Applique Dress
Pleats and draped fabric hide easy nursing access just below the detailed neckline. Bonus: you can wear this one pregnant too!
Must Have Maxi Dress
Keep it simple with this solid maxi dress, seam lifts for easy nursing access.
Ikat Nursing Dress
This dress leaves a little room for that post-belly-belly to create a flattering fit, nursing access is hidden just behind the panel.
Gemma Nursing Dress
Cute print: check. Spring colors: check. Nursing access: check.
Enja Cap Sleeve Dress
Perfect dress for work which is great, because the word “pumps” has taken a whole new meaning.
Britney Bubble Top
Dresses not your style? We’re loving the watercolor print. Front pleating covers nursing panel and provides a flattering not-too-snug fit.
Express Nursing Tank
Can’t go wrong with a nautical stripe. This nursing tank is super cute on it’s own or paired with a light cardigan for spring.
Shop all the new arrivals and try them on in person.
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My Doula, McRae Brittingham, recommended that I share my breastfeeding story with you to help others in their quest to breastfeed naturally.A word of advice …
I was a high risk, first time, mature, single, mom-to-be and had no preconceived ideas about breastfeeding, but knew that I wanted to have a natural labor and breastfeed my baby as soon as he flexed his baby lungs and screamed his arrival. 22 hours of natural labor, three hours of epidural expectations and one hour of c-section delivery soon shot my fairytale dream delivery but I still remained hopeful for a blissful breastfeeding experience.
So then I was faced with this new infant who wanted to eat 24/7 or so it seemed. Who relied on me to provide his every need. The lactation nurse came in to see me at the hospital that very morning, and proceeded to “teach” me how to properly breastfeed, as she aggressively fondled me and managed to get my boy latched on. I felt relieved and slightly violated.
However, as I was soooo drugged up with hospital medications to keep pain at bay, I seemed to remember thinking that the lactation nurse looked very similar to my long deceased grandfather. Truth be told, I was so blitzed when the lactation nurse was explaining how to help the baby latch onto my breast. Why, I wonder now, is this instruction not provided the week prior to birth, when you are completely sober and drug free.
A word of advice … take the lactation nurses prescription for Jack Newman’s Nipple ointment, and ask for refills – it was a saving grace.
Those first couple of days of breastfeeding were impossibly hard, upsetting and stressful for me. I was just grateful my son was getting milk and didn’t pay much attention to how he was getting it, which resulted in cracked, bleeding and extremely sore nipples from hell.
I was fortunate enough to have a Doula and postpartum Doula who helped me, as best they could, with how to adjust my breastfeeding positions to help with the latch. But my son and I were constantly at odds when it came to my breasts and his feeding. It was frustrating, awkward and painful for both of us.
On the second month, I was desperate to try and figure out a compromise for us. My postpartum Doula suggested a visit to the Breast Whisperer located in southside. I was intrigued and did I mention, desperate. So I immediately made an appointment and was ushered into the Breast Whisperer’s house, with baby and all baby feeding paraphernalia. I was shown how to cradle my child, supporting him and how his latch should feel and look like, without the aggressive fondling the hospital lactation nurse had generously provided previously.
The Breast Whisperer weighed my baby, in the buff, after each breastfeeding, to determine the quantity of milk he was receiving from each breast. And surprise, surprise, it was sufficient and he was thriving. I had such a feeling of relief and success. At last, I could provide for my child without both of us cringing, crying or climbing walls.
It took one more visit to the Breast Whisperer a couple of weeks later to find new feeding positions that would work for us, as my son grew big, strong and healthy. She recommended hydrogel pads to help soothe my enflamed nipples and by the third month, my son and I were best friends at breastfeeding time and my nipples, while they are as hard as silver bullets, have sufficiently recovered.
I am still breastfeeding my son, who turns five months old next week. Back in the bleak days, I swore I would “only breastfeed him for two more weeks”. My aim now, is to continue breastfeeding for as long as I want. Now, if only finding a job were that easy!
Another word of advice … if it hurts, just reach out for help. Don’t be frustrated alone. Believe me when I say, “by the third month, it becomes sooooo much easier.”
For 10 weeks, every feeding consisted of attempting breastfeeding (we had some latch issues), feeding a bottle of expressed milk, then pumping.
During those weeks, I was lucky to have amazing support from family, friends and lactation specialists. People would feed him the bottle, put away pumped milk and clean the pump pieces, help around the house, and offer emotional support.
My husband was such a trooper, waking up for almost all of the night feedings when we didn’t have one of our mothers at the house. Slowly, the need for using the bottle decreased and then stopped altogether. Our boy was breastfeeding!!!!!
In the process, we built up a supply of over 250 bags of frozen milk. My mother-in-law bought us a deep freeze. Benjamin chose to stop breastfeeding at 15 months, but he had breast milk for a long time after.
My second child, Scarlett, was born full term at VCU with the midwives. She latched right away. I have been pumping twice a day to stock up supply. She has been so successful, that we have been able to share milk with another baby!
I truly believe breastfeeding is the best thing you can do for your child, but it isn’t necessarily easy. It is so important to have good support and information. I am grateful to the many people involved in the successful feeding of my babies.
I make plenty of milk, tons of milk; that’s not the problem.
I nurse in public discretely though I’m not ashamed of it. Sometimes people will have whole conversations with me before they notice that I’ve been nursing the entire time. I’ve got the holds and tips and tricks down. I attend regular La Leche League meetings mostly to provide support to other moms.
I’ve nursed 3 babies (all added up, I’ve nursed 28 months) and *knock on wood* we’ve never had too much of an issue.
So why do I say I’m not good at breastfeeding? Well, because most of the time, I don’t actually LIKE breastfeeding. In fact, sometimes, I kinda hate it. Predictably, as soon as I typed that, I am flooded with guilt. So many women have so much trouble and it comes so naturally to me. How could I say something like I “hate” nursing? I cringe at how ungrateful I sound.
Maybe, before I had kids, I had an overly romantic idea of what nursing my baby would be like. (A false expectation of parenthood?! Shocking!)
I suppose I pictured myself as a Mary Cassatt painting: staring lovingly into my baby’s eyes and thinking how grateful I am for this moment of bonding.
But the truth is, that beautiful moment of bonding is waaay too frequent on any given day. I hate pumping and I work full time, so there’s no way around it. I miss my non-nursing clothes. A lot. Babies pinch and wiggle and grab your face and hair… or stop nursing suddenly and take a look around, exposing your full nipple to the free world. They can’t hold their own breast like holding their own bottle… my list of breastfeeding grievances is long; I’ll spare you the 4 paragraphs of complaints I just deleted.
Basically, it comes down to this: I can only revel in the beauty of the mother-child relationship for so long and then there are places to go, people to see, and other mouths to feed (thankfully, they eat solids).
But here’s what I remind myself about all of that (plus the deleted paragraphs): it’s okay not to love everything that comes with having kids. Many women hate pregnancy (I love it) or the terrible twos (love that too!). Ages and stages come and go and I won’t have to breastfeed forever.
So despite my huffs and puffs, here are 5 most selfish reasons I breastfeed my babies:
1. I have a vanity issue. Yep. You’ve heard before and I’ll say it again: breastfeeding causes the uterus to contract which makes that post baby belly drop down a little faster; milk production alone burns 300-500 calories a day (free french fries!). Anything that causes you to burns calories just by breathing is worth a little boredom.
2. I have an irrational fear that my son will forget me. Let me repeat for all the new and working moms out there: this is a completely irrational fear. Bottle or breast, my son will not forget me. But when I’m gone 45 hours a week, it’s a little comforting to know that I’ve got something over nana.
3. I haven’t had to put the big kids to bed in 4 months. “Sorry, the baby is hungry, have fun putting the kids to bed honey!” I may or may not have gotten out of other household duties as well (I have).
4. Breastmilk poop doesn’t smell nearly as bad as formula poop. I’m not even kidding. We cloth diaper, so this is a serious factor.
5. It teaches me a lesson- in patience. Truth be told, I could use a little boredom in my life. I often have too many things going on and if I didn’t tie myself down (or weight myself with an 18 pound 4 month old) I might not stop.
We’re committed to at least a year, and I know from experience that it does get easier. Once I am not his only source of nutrition I’ll feel a little bit better. When don’t have to pump anymore, I’ll feel better still. And eventually, he won’t want to nurse at all, and when that day comes, when I realize he’s weaned entirely…
I’ll be just a little bit heartbroken.
Do any of you have a love/hate relationship with breastfeeding?
Does it make you feel as guilty as it makes me feel?
]]>I breastfed my children, which naturally makes me an expert.
Pro: My breasts went from an A to a DD in preparation for the big breastfeeding day, which made me more understanding of women's boobs everywhere.
Con: Breastfeeding didn’t make me better than moms who formula fed. Very disappointing.
Pro: I produced LIQUID GOLD.
Con: Turned out it was just breast milk.
Pro: I got so good at breastfeeding that I could walk and breastfeed and nobody could tell. I was a breastfeeding ninja.
Con: Breastfeeding ninjas don’t get many weapons beyond feeding my child and the ability to blind people with a milk squirt.
Pro: I bought cool new shirts with peekaboo breast pockets.
Con: I took being called “a milk cow” as a compliment.
Pro: When my kid had thrust, I got to paint my nipples purple.
Con: When my kid had thrust, I had to paint my nipples purple.
Pro: I could legally flash people in public.
Con: No one ever gave me Mardi Gras beads.
Pro: I saved so much money breastfeeding.
Con: I spent some of it on giant fugly nursing bras.
Pro: Breast milk is the all-natural, medicinal duct tape of infants. Squirt in the baby’s eyes, ears, noses, and ALL BETTER!
Con: Mastitis.
Pro: Augment breast size with just one feeding.
Con: Accidentally augment only the left side.
Pro: I told so many jokes about boobs crying when anything else cries.
Con: Breast- or formula-feeding does not give someone a sense of humor.
Now everyone knows exactly what to do and how to do it. Or at least to not take themselves so seriously while trying to figure it all out.
My son is pulling me closer to let me know he's about to wean whether I like it or not.
PS. Breastfeeding is not black or white, good or bad, next president or serial killer, and it certainly isn't the most serious thing you do for your child. However, every woman should have the opportunity to breastfeed her children for as long as she would like with the supports she needs. Click here for a list of events in Richmond, VA to celebrate World Breastfeeding Week for breastfeeding moms or those considering it as a choice for their baby.
If you are like most pregnant and newly postpartum mamas you are aware of the many benefits that breastfeeding offers to you and your baby. You also probably have a goal in mind for how long you would like to breastfeed whether it be until you transition back to work, six months, one year, or more!
Breast milk is a human baby’s normal food, and while the physiology of lactation is a natural process, breastfeeding is a learned skill and many mamas say it can be really hard at first.
Even if you don’t experience any of the most common complications like low milk supply, nipple pain, engorgement, plugged ducts, or mastitis, you may still find the commitment and the demands of breastfeeding around the clock to be exhausting.
So what do you do if the mechanics of breastfeeding are going well, but the effort required feels herculean and you secretly wonder how much longer you can keep at this? Whatever your goals, whatever your challenges, many mamas share your sentiment.
Here are a few suggestions to help get you through:
- Know what is normal nursing behavior for a healthy newborn. Calm your fears, gather your confidence. Newborn babies nurse 8-12 times every 24 hours. That’s a lot of time spent nursing! Read up if you can before your baby is born. Check out from the library or buy your own copy of a comprehensive and evidence based reference guide like The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding, and visit Kellymom.com. Find a local chapter of La Leche League and attend a meeting—you’ll meet other moms in all phases and stages of breastfeeding who’ve been there and done that so bring your baby, or a friend, and a list of whatever is on your mind. Most importantly, take heart and know that you are not alone in navigating the highs and lows of nursing your baby.
- Eat, drink, rest. Stay hydrated, nourish your body, and find opportunities to rest whenever you can. The postpartum period can be a stressful time of recovery with a steep learning curve as you find a rhythm in your mothering and navigate changing roles and responsibilities within your household. Take care of yourself. Focus on your baby and let others cook, clean, and keep the house running. Eat healthful foods when you are hungry; drink water, milk, or fresh squeezed juices when you are thirsty; and rest when you are tired. Research says that breastfeeding mamas report being less tired and get more sleep than mothers who formula feed or do a little of both.
- Identify a support network. You will have many questions as a new mama and you will need emotional support, encouragement, and love from people you respect because breastfeeding is a huge commitment. Identify a support network before you need it. Write down names and numbers on a piece of paper and tape it to your fridge. When you need to vent or connect, look at the list and take your pick. To get started: consider your husband or partner your key to success. Mamas committed to breastfeeding will be more successful if they have their partner’s support. He may not understand exactly how you feel in your darkest moments but with his love, support, and appreciation you will have more determination to continue, even when it feels hard. Also consider adding to the list: Local La Leche League leaders, girlfriends and female family members who have successfully breastfed and who believe in your goals, local support groups and mothering circles, and professional lactation support like an international board certified lactation consultant (IBCLC) for troubleshooting if you need it.
- Build in time for privacy. At the same time that you need great support, you also need time alone and privacy from visitors and fans in order to learn your baby’s feeding cues and personality and to settle into a routine. Establishing visiting hours at home can be a great thing.
- Reframe time spent nursing as YOUR time. Your baby is a beautiful little creature and while you will spend countless hours admiring her, you shouldn’t feel obligated to actively bond with your baby for the duration of every nursing session. Breastfeeding is as much about nutrition as it is about nurturing; it satisfies your baby’s emotional needs for comfort, safety, human touch and connection, which are as important to her overall development as good nutrition. The bonding is built-in! Set up a comfy nursing station in your bed or living room with a water bottle, easy to eat snacks, a current read, and your iPhone. Enjoy this time to rest (learn to nurse in the side-lying position!), catch up on your favorite television series, talk on the phone, visit with friends, download the latest game from the app store, FaceTime, or listen to an audiobook. Enjoy the opportunity to relax and to do something that makes you feel happy and recharged.
- Take a shower. Sometimes you just need a reset. Bonus if your partner or someone you trust can hold the baby for you so that you can shower in peace and quiet.
- Put on some makeup and some comfortable clothes that make you feel like yourself, and get out of the house (even if it’s only to take a walk around the block). Practice nursing at home with or without a nursing cover to help you feel more comfortable to feed your baby whenever and wherever your baby needs to eat so that being out of the house feels less stressful.
- Redefine normal. Life will never be as it was before you had kids. Don’t wait for your life to return to “normal” before you start living and loving it. Life with kids is lived in phases and a lack of sleep coupled with the very physical effort required to care for your family day and night makes the newborn and infant stages incredibly demanding. Take a time out with your partner and get creative to identify strategies and small actions that you can take to focus on your individual needs and to foster your relationship.
- Ask for help. Accept help. The people who love you most don’t always know what you need or how best to help you. If someone asks how they can help their interest is probably genuine, so take them up on their offer! For practical help outline a list of chores to refer to when visitors come to the house and ask what they can do. (Be as specific as you need to be in order to delegate the task.) Ask a friend to set up a meal train (we like: Take Them a Meal or MealBaby) for your family in the weeks after your baby is born; there is nothing better than a hot meal prepared with love and delivered to your dining room table. Hire skilled help to fill in the gaps until you are ready to fold in to your routine the everyday not baby-related responsibilities. Find a postpartum doula, a house cleaner, or a dog sitter. Renegotiate your responsibilities within the household so that you can focus on your baby and let other people care for you in the ways that you find helpful.
- Wear your baby. Much of your day will be devoted to breastfeeding and when not nursing many babies prefer to be held in arms, even while they sleep. If you feel like a hostage find an attractive and functional carrier so that when you’re not nursing you can carry your baby and tend to the other things you may want to do. You will love having two free hands and many carriers can be used by your partner too, which will give you a break when the baby isn’t nursing.
- Take a load off when your baby isn’t nursing. Encourage your husband or partner to bond with your baby when she isn’t nursing. A few ideas for Partner: Offer to take the baby between feeds so mom can rest or have a break; get to know your baby’s personality and learn to recognize her feeding cues; burp her, change her diaper, play with her, read her a book, hang out together skin to skin; listen to your favorite music together; talk to her about life; take her for a walk outside; or wear her in a carrier while she sleeps.
- Take each day one at a time. Breastfeeding in the early months will be the focus of much of your energy as a new mama. You will not love every minute spent breastfeeding, but know that you won’t regret a minute of your investment. You will carry with you forever the sweetest memories from these hours and days spent nestled-in with your babe. Relish that glossy newborn hair. Be awestruck and amazed by the tiny life that rests right there in your lap; how did this one little being change everything? Don’t stress about what comes next, whether it be a transition back to work or learning a new role at home. Focus on making each day as good as it can be and work together as a family to tackle the big decisions. The days are long but the years are short. Hang in there! What may feel like active work now will be second nature before you know it.
- You are a SUPER MAMA! Be proud of yourself. You will look back on this time with a full heart and gratitude for the shared experience. You are exactly the mama that your baby needs and you are doing a great job.
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