What We Think Of Ourselves As Parents vs. What Our Kids Think

What parents think vs what kids thinkBeing a parent is one of the hardest jobs on the planet. It’s a 24-hour-a-day job that is unrelenting, exhausting, and challenging – even during the best of times. Of course, it’s also one of the most rewarding jobs in the world; but there are many days when that is hard to remember. It’s those days that we question ourselves, our abilities, our shortcomings, and our mistakes, that make us wonder if we’re really cut out to be parents after all.

In a “normal” job – one that takes place outside of the home – we have things like annual reviews and incentives to keep us on track. We have chances to hear how we’re doing – to learn what we’re doing right and what we could do better. Unfortunately, as parents, we don’t get a review process and often, we’re left with only our own thoughts on our performance. And those thoughts? Well, they can be pretty discouraging.

So needless to say, when we saw this video of moms describing how they felt as parents, we were intrigued. Every mom that stood in front of the camera said something we could relate to. They talked about wishing they had more patience. They described their struggles with keeping their temper. They talked about wishing they had more confidence in their ability as parents. And it all made so much sense.

But then, each of the moms featured was invited to come back a few days later to see what their kids had to say. As it turns out, none of the kids talked about these shortcomings. Instead, they described the little things – the day-to-day ways that their mothers made them feel loved. They talked about the activities they did together and the admiration they had for these women who gave tirelessly, day after day. Needless to say, it was moving.

As the holidays approach, it’s easy to get caught up in the parenting perfection cycle. We try to make everything magical and meaningful and when we don’t feel that our efforts are appreciated in the ways that they should be, we sometimes experience a sense of discouragement or failure. So perhaps this holiday season, we should stop and remember that it’s not the grand gestures that our kids remember. It’s not even the mistakes that we make that they dwell on. It’s the love we give that makes the biggest difference of all.

So now, grab some tissues and watch these moms learn that, maybe, they’re doing something right after all.

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