by Richmond Mom Kristy Roy
. . .That is my question.
As the mom of two rambunctious young boys, 2 & 5, my husband and I think we’re done having kids. At least that’s the thought this week.
I’m going to be honest here, If I was guaranteed to have a girl I’d be up for the challenge of a third in a second, but obviously that is not a guarantee.
I love my boys to death and I like things just the way they are, but being the oldest of 4, I’ve always imagined having a big family when we ‘grow up’. With that being said, although I don’t consider myself quite a grown up, I’m 31 and starting to feel the need to come up with an answer soon. I think my boys are awesome but I’m a stay-at home-mom with a hard-working husband and the thought of adding another to the mix can really make my head spin.
Also, my husband and I are both pretty practical people so naturally we think of things like finances, giving up our extra bedroom, three carseats in the car, buying five tickets to the amusement parks instead of four . . .the list goes on.
Just when I think I’ve made up my mind, I start to feel guilty and a little disappointed. Am I being selfish by not wanting to give up anymore of the oh-so-little free time I have to add to our family? Would my boys enjoy having another sibling once they are grown and we are gone? Are we going to regret never having a cute little baby sleeping on our chest again? Am I OK with the fact that the possibility of having a pink nursery is forever gone?
Another nagging thought I have stems from moms of more than two kids: How come they are so willing to pop out a 3rd, 4th or 5th?
Do I not love my kids as much as they love theirs? Am I not enjoying motherhood as much as they are or as much as I could be? When I stop to think about it I realize that maybe its simply that fact that they are different people in different situations.
As for me, I feel truly blessed with my beautiful and healthy boys and I think I’ve got my answer…at least for this week 
