Richmond, Virginia: Let the Good Times Roll


In 1989, the Red Hot Chili Peppers played at Shafer Court on the VCU campus, Gwar was spewing blood and guts citywide and it seemed like everyone was at the Village drinking coffee and getting the breakfast special with a waiter with Buddy Holly glasses. I was a student at VCU, half my head shaved, […]

Marriage: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly


I know it’s a touchy subject amongst the ladies but I’m pretty sure most men see a beautiful woman when she walks down the street in front of them…..even my husband. So what. I could look out my front door and find five women better looking than me on any given day.  I mean, the […]

This Mother’s Day: Ferme la Bouche.


  The greatest lessons I ever learned while growing up didn’t come in a conversation, so this Mother’s Day I share with you six things my mom said to me without ever saying a word. You don’t need a man to take care of you.  My mom took care of her four kids whether my […]

Back In My Day


I posted a picture on Facebook recently and one of my long time friends said, “Holy Crap your son has facial hair, I feel old.”    “I don’t” I started to write but then my husband, who likes to annoyingly peer over my shoulder and call me out when I write a tiny little Facebook […]

Don’t Forget Me When I’m Gone


We are past the age of putting our lives in careless danger without a second thought. We are past the age of playing chicken on a small dirt road with a sixteen wheeler. We are past the age of crossing active railroad tracks while in a less than astute state of mind. We are at […]

“Won’t You Be My Baby?”


                      As Donovan gets older the list of things I am not allowed to do grows longer.  Things that seemed at times a chore have become golden relics now that they are no longer  allowed. No more walking to school with him. No more making […]

How Much Are Your Viewing Habits Costing Your Family?


If there is one thing parents universally lie about it is how much time there kids spent in front of the television or computer screen, and if they aren’t lying about it they are adamantly explaining defending or justifying it. I know because I do it. So let’s stop lying. I’ll start. When my cranky […]

What Kind of Woman Are You?


              “In my heart of hearts, I no longer want to be Better than you Smarter than you Thinner than you Prettier than you Faster than you Stronger than you A better mother than you I want to walk this path Side by side In awe of who you […]

He Who Dies With the Most Toys Wins


  In the eighties, a time of rabid acquiring of wealth, that phrase made it to a t-shirt. People wore that, in public. In their defense, they were also wearing shirts that said “Bag your face” and “Where’s the beef?” There were shows on television like Silver Spoon in which Ricky Schroder played a spoiled […]

Success In School (and Life) Starts With More Than Good Grades


When I was twenty-two years old I dropped my three- year old son, Beau, off for the first time at preschool.  For the first three weeks, I stood at the window, while he pulled the curtains apart from the inside and stared out, screaming bloody murder.  I stood there, my wretched tortured face inches from […]