How to Spice Up Your Marriage As You Enter Your 40s

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Marriage is something you shouldn’t take lightly. For the most part, it demands more than just your time and patience to raise a family and care for your partner. Much of it focuses on ensuring that intimacy remains alive and well. You can’t deny the emotional needs of your partner, and neither can he, so it’s important to find ways that will keep the spark between you alive, especially when you’ve entered a critical period in your marriage when it’s supposed to die down.

Nothing is permanent, but the love you share with your partner can be sustained so long as you work together as you enter your 40s. At this time in your life, you may have entered the pinnacle of your career, and your priorities shift from giving affection to saving for retirement. If that happens, intimacy suffers, and you may feel as though you’re only going through the motions of keeping your partner happy. It matters to explore ways to increase affection and make the most of romance even as you’re halfway through:

1. Go beyond small talk

Communication is the cornerstone of a strong relationship. You may have had a genuine connection with your spouse during the early days of your marriage, but even this erodes with time. As you enter your 40s, your conversations may start to feel bland, and that kind of thinking causes intimacy and trust to suffer.

If you want to keep the spark between you alive, you will have to change the way you converse with each other. It starts with going deeper than the usual topics you talk about to start and end the day. Apart from asking what’s for breakfast and what happened at work, share interesting stories about a family member or a coworker. What’s more, find space to talk about the future, such as plans and goals you have yet to accomplish. There’s so much to discover in your relationship, so be bold enough to strike meaningful conversations that get your spouse invested in what tomorrow holds.

2. Go on an extended trip

More than just a stress reliever, traveling is the perfect way for you and your spouse to spend quality time, especially if it’s one element that holds you together. You can also treat it as an opportunity to gauge each other’s strengths and weaknesses. It’s easy to notice these if it has been a long time since you went on an extended trip. Vacationing will unveil what has changed in your spouse over the years and allow you to build a deeper appreciation of what they have become.

If you’re planning to book a trip within the country you’re in, go as far away as possible from your hometown. In case you live on the East Coast, go on an extended road trip westward along scenic highways where you can stop by for picnics or an intimate overnight stay at a motel. For foreign travels, you can always do what most couples do and pick romantic destinations such as Rome or Paris.

However, if you’re both adventurous, you might as well book a flight to more exotic destinations such as Fiji or Morocco. When you give as much thought to your travel plans, you will enjoy the time you spend and come home feeling more energized and passionate.

3. Make the right changes

You can’t stop aging, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make changes to the way you look. Your spouse loves you for who you are, but there are times when you will have to make alterations that increase their arousal and make them want more of you. The right changes can also add more spice to your relationship, allowing you to experience new sensations or take you back to the ones that defined your first years as a married couple. All it takes is choosing physical improvements that are safe and preserve your natural beauty.

In place of plastic surgery, you can opt for non-invasive procedures such as Botox injections that help make your skin firmer and younger. You might also want to try laser treatment procedures that smoothen and lighten your skin, bringing back the radiance you once had.

For your body, you can go for an Estherian butt lift and silicone breast implants that are guaranteed to uplift your intimate nights. Just be sure to avoid overdoing these alterations. If anything, you can pair these with an improved lifestyle that consists of an antioxidant-rich diet as well as an exercise program that’s designed to help fight off aging and keep you fit and active.

4. Explore more options in bed

Intimacy doesn’t stop with elevating physical attractiveness. Much of it hinges on your ability to satisfy your partner. Sex may have been fun during the first years of your marriage, but many couples start to lose steam around the 10-year mark. That’s normal, but allowing intimacy to plateau this way will only worsen your disconnect from your spouse. The way around this is to look for ways to satisfy your partner.

If you think intercourse has ceased to feel enjoyable, opt to look for new ways to infuse excitement. Apart from using toys and devices to enhance the sensation, do a bit of roleplay where you get to choose adult scenarios for a more playful night. What’s more, consider taking your lovemaking outside the bedroom. Do it in the garage or tease each other while watching a movie at a packed theater. You can also take the experience to the next level by practicing BDSM.

5. Enjoy the little things

You may think that preserving intimacy in your marriage is more a matter of changing and breaking out of your routine as a couple. However, what truly sustains you is the fact that you enjoy each other’s company. You may not feel it, mostly because both of you are busy most days of the week, but you won’t stand the thought of losing your partner.

As much as you want to book expensive trips and change the way you look, it’s the little moments you share that matter the most. In short, even as time takes a toll on the body and your memory, you have a lot to be thankful for when you acknowledge that your better half is here for the long run.

Endnote

Don’t let the thought of entering your 40s intimidate you and your partner. There’s a lot to look forward to as you enter this domain, so hold steady and follow the tips above.